loyalty and marriage

there are so many things that i learn in our office. The environment is intellectually challenging both for political and moral views. That's why I tell to myself that this is the reason why God sent me here...it is to learn the lessons i need to learn..or hear them. Lessons in life are best taught by people who have done so many things in their life.

After the Tagaytay trip where I heard the advice of my boss about building trust and giving space, I have learned a lot of things when it comes to morals. Somewhere along my journey for maturity, I lived my life against the norms. It's because norms are just the rules and MORALS that people impose in the society. So I broke so many rules, done things that NORMAL people wouldn't do...I enjoyed my life and learned so many things along the way.

Then the other day came, we were talking as we always do after lunch. We suddenly came to the topic about loyalty and adultery. What would you choose, love or work? Then one of the senior staffs said that we should go back to the basics: Ten commandments. I know, I'm working in a non-sectarian university but with influence from Opus Dei. So the morals are still slanting towards Catholicism and Christianity.

It was a debate, real debate. Then one of them said that it's not right if you are not doing the right thing or hurting someone. If you are married, stick to it. God blessed married couples so the marriage should be forever.

Then the other one said that there are a lot of people or couples who are separated because they let their emotions rule their minds. The rebuttal: they are still thinking. Then the answer: Yes, they're thinking to justify their emotions so they end up justifying the wrong thing. And those wrong justifications become norm that's why couple nowadays think that it is ok to separate and break their marriage.

Then I realized, yes, she's correct. The norm now about marriage lacks the basic and fundamental idea of marriage that's why there are a lot of broken families and suffering kids. That's why there are a lot of kids who grow up being rebels to their families because they didn't feel the love that they supposed to receive. That's the reason why the teens do not take relationships seriously.

Masyadong burgis ang pagmamahal at relasyon ngayon sa lipunan. Papalit-palit, pinagsasabay, at walang commitment. Dahil un ang tinuturo sa mga tao na dapat baguhin.